Dating a man who grew up without a father
They may even preach teamwork but ultimately the decision-making process is limited to what they want. There are often feelings of loneliness and emptiness because nothing satisfies the hole in their hearts No matter how many people are around them, many fatherless men often feel like outsiders–never able to fully enjoy the company of others because they are not comfortable in their own skin.They don’t know where they fit in and are constantly gripped with a sense of emptiness that no amount of activity, crowds, money, accolades, or success could fill. There is an inability to enjoy the present and a desire to always focus on an unreachable future Many fatherless men are always striving, never satisfied, and never happy.There is a dearth of fatherlessness in the world and in the church today.The emotional and spiritual effects of this have been nothing less than catastrophic!The following are some of the symptoms of fatherlessness.(This can be applied to both natural and spiritual fathers.) I.Thus they are always looking to a better future and never enjoy the present. There is continual friction with other leaders and men When some fatherless men become leaders, the combination of competitiveness, insecurity, and lack of trust proves to be a deadly combustion that leads to much friction with other marketplace or church leaders.They are always thinking that someone is plotting against them, or speaking badly about them, or is trying to undermine their ministry or work.
They mostly make their own decisions without getting real counsel, and if they do get counsel, they will ultimately do what they want anyway because they don’t believe anyone fully looks out for their interests. There is a great competitive drive due to comparisons with other men Some men’s insecurities result in them constantly comparing themselves with other men.They believe that they must not be deserving or lovable.Children also develop the belief that the absent parent is bad and so, through genetics, they must also be bad.Without those interactions, men can grow up to be unsure of how they should behave as husbands and fathers.Adolescent boys look to their father figures to tell them if they are good enough to be men, writes psychologist Frank Pittman, in an article for Psychology Today entitled “Fathers and Sons.” Without paternal approval, adolescent boys experience emotional pain, which can lead to attempts to prove themselves.
Without having this influence in their lives, boys are at risk of growing into men who have problems with behavior, emotional stability, and relationships with both significant others and their own children.