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So I am optimistic that she still has a long time on this earth, but perhaps that optimism is out of my wanting to deny that I could lose her any time.I want to give a relationship a try, and I feel there is a lot we could teach each other and that it would be rewarding experience for us both.I have been dating a woman for about 6 weeks and starting to develop feelings for her.Yesterday she told me she has cancer, and that it is a particularly bad form of it and based on my research, general life expectancy is not that great.
I would just hate to reject her because she is ill. Yes, but it's not entirely fair for someone with a terminal illness to date someone and expect them to take on that burden. But just understand that you do not have to continue a relationship with a terminally ill person who had that knowledge before you started dating.I understand the need for love and a partner, but I don't know if she's being entirely fair with you. Thank you for this advice, it is good to hear someone say it. She has already been rejected by others because of it. I want her to have more, but I know that will be at great cost to myself.It puts an immense burden on a relationship and makes everything so dramatic and intense. I know she's thinking she's giving you a free choice; but to be honest, it's so loaded. It makes me sick to my stomach though that she be condemned by this illness to a fate of loneliness. And perhaps that is not a healthy dynamic in a relationship.So if she doesn't want to feel alone, she can join the many, many support groups and services offered for cancer patients and survivors.i also think it wasn't fair of this woman you are dating to wait until you'd dated 6 weeks before telling you.
I cannot be indecisive or wishy-washy about my commitment to her if I decide to make that commitment. I also feel that if we do get into a relationship, and I am unhappy with some part of it down the line (other than the illness), that I will stay in the relationship out of guilt of abandoning her.