For foreign women it’s a completely different story.Japanese men seem to expect certain things from a woman.I also experienced that they’re unable to do anything on their own.When I ask them about how they got their cellphone or credit card they just answer they don’t know because their wife did it for them.Japanese guys are often too shy, scared or whatever and the majority of Western men is only interested in Japanese / Asian women.As a result it is tough to find a date as a foreign woman here in Japan.In relationships where the man is foreign I noticed that they mostly speak his native language.
Foreign guys often seem to struggle with this system.For some reason (maybe through the consumption of too many Hollywood movies) Japanese women think that foreign men are like that!They’re not afraid of showing their feelings in public or telling their girls flat out how they feel about them. The extreme version of this is known as “gaijin hunter” and some will do everything for the sake of having one of those adorable “half”-kids (half Western, half Japanese) just to toss their foreign guy later on.And at the same time there’s only a very tiny number of foreign (read: non-Asian) women with Japanese men next to them. Maybe that’s a secret we’ll never quite get, but there are many theories!A lot of Japanese women want a guy that tells them several times a day how much he loves them.
It might be a bit more difficult if you’re looking for a serious relationship as there are those women I mentioned earlier who either want you as “exotic accessory” or just want your DNA to create a cute “half-child”.